Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought answer each person - Colossians 4:6
I hate conflict. It’s dirty, it’s ugly, it’s mean and it’s more often than not purely self centred.
I abhor it. I cringe from it, I back peddle from it, and I avoid it every way I can. But I think I’ve learned my lesson tonight: no matter how ugly it may seem to be, you need to take care of it before it becomes a beast.
I’ve never been one to deal with conflict. My chosen method is to back down, let it cool and say sorry to make the peace. And I’ve been lucky in my life to where I haven’t had to deal with any real conflict. But as it’s been surfacing over this summer and in my life, I’m learning I need to grow a backbone and speak up for myself, for the sake of my sanity, feelings and for the sake of my husband and my marriage, which above all is more important than anything else.
I have always tried to live by this verse… “season your words with salt”
Salt isn’t just a flavor enhancer, it’s a refiner and a preserver. I’ve found, usually, the words you say and the kind thoughts, actions and feelings you give to people will get you far. Honey catches more flies than vinegar.
But with a particular person on my life right now… none of this seems to work. I don’t know what I’ve done, but apparently it’s not enough to build a friendship. I’ve extended my heart, my feelings, my hand-me-downs (which is a big deal ok… I just don’t get rid of my clothes and I don’t just give them to anybody) and I thought I was making a friendship. But that was apparently not the case this time, and everything I tried to do just wasn’t enough. And to me… it burns. So badly.
I CARE what people think and feel. I want close relationships, I want to be there for people… but when you don’t show me how to do that, and then call me out on whatever I’ve done wrong…
I’m sorry. I have patience and kindness, but even that runs dry.
But I have to be continually reminded. It’s not me, It’s just them sometimes. There’s nothing I can do at some point. So all I can do is be kind.
Be patient, kind, gentle and fine. Characteristics of a godly woman, one that I feel I frequently fall short of, and a goal that I always need to be working and praying for.
Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer- Romans 12:12
Conflict sucks. Completely over this
Thank you God for Cindy Fritz. I don’t know how I’d survive if didn’t have that woman in my life
Don’t ever feel bad for making a decision that upsets other people. You are not responsible for their happiness. You are responsible for your happiness.
Isaiah Henkel (via miaoin)
etsyfindoftheday 7 | 9.15.14
style: small speckled stoneware planter
rounding out your extra shopstyle feature tonight is a totally different offering from kertis — be sure to click through and check out their small handmade pottery planters, including this little speckled beaut. i love them all! a BIG thank you to kertis for having such a delightful shop to focus on this evening <3